Body Image Issues

I’m OK with Not Being Perfect

Every person is different and that’s what makes them unique and actually perfect in themselves.

The concept of perfection has become so flawed and yet so rampant that many of us have started comparing ourselves to everyone on social media. There are many aspects of comparison but comparing the shape and size of bodies is the most common. Daily we look enviously at models, skinny moms, actresses and even at our neighborhood lady. While comparing, we forget that everybody not only has different body types but also completely different lifestyles and priorities. This is where Body Positivity comes in.

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It’s human nature to compare and proliferation of social media has made it very easy. Isn’t it funny how many of us end up losing our mental peace for something that is not even worth it most of the times? There’s no smartness in valuing your body over your being.

I was never skinny but never fat either. By the time I entered late thirties, I started seeing changes in my body. I gained weight easily and didn’t seem to lose it easily. Then I got pregnant and put on another 10 kilograms. I lost it all within two months of delivery but didn’t lose many inches and soon after, I started gaining weight again.
I started walking and some exercise but couldn’t get regular thanks to mommy duties. We live in a nuclear setup and don’t have full time maids which meant that I couldn’t find time for my own health. Rather than going crazy, I decided to look at Body Positivity. A good thing I have started during this time is intermittent fasting which helps even though I end up eating sweets quite often. The guilt creeps up but still self-control isn’t my forte. Who can I blame then?

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Rather than wanting a toned body without doing much about it, I have started to take things as they come. I feel good now that I have decided to take things as they come, I’ve become more confident.

You might say that you are doing everything and still very far from your ideal weight; it can just be your body type or maybe you need a little more time. The plan should be to never give up on yourself. Fat or thin, you need to love yourself. It’s not that I don’t want to lose 10 kgs but I have accepted that it will take some time. Till then, I try to pose in flattering angles and embrace Body Positivity 😛
I’m okay with not being perfect
‘Cause that’s perfect to me
‘Cause that’s perfect to me
‘Cause that’s perfect to me

Do you also feel that awareness about Body Positivity is important?

I thank Priyanka Sehgal who blogs at https://mommynshanaya.wordpress.com for introducing me. She is a dear friend who writes about things close to her heart on her blog. I would also take the opportunity to introduce Sthuti Panigrahy Singh who blogs at https://mommyaccountsays.wordpress.com.

It brings me immense pleasure to share that I, along with 30 other bloggers, am celebrating Women’s Day with a twist. This post is a part of #UnapologeticGirlz Blogathon hosted by @mylittlemuffin_mom @mommyvoyage and @themomsagas, sponsored by @kaurageousyou.

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It’s OK to Not Be a Yummy Mummy

There are so many ways to categorize moms but the most coveted tag is that of a Yummy Mummy. It simply means a mother who is attractive and stylish. The tag looks harmless and it indeed is until and unless there is a pressure on mommies to look a certain way. As if the unrealistic images of models were not enough, now we are bombarded with images of mothers who are not only thin and glamorous but also have their lives in control.

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These days every other mom wants to look like Kareena Kapoor or her favourite mommy blogger. What these moms forget is that there is no need to fit in every mould there is. Each one of us is unique, beautiful and totally awesome. You can be plus size or a size zero, you may afford expensive photo shoots or you may not, you may always be well turned out or you may not; none of this adds anything or takes away from your motherhood.

About ‘lives in control’ part- some people do it better than others but again this doesn’t make others worse off. If you have a baby who is a total angel, that’s great and others whose babies are like mine, lower your expectations. No havoc will be wreaked if your little one tastes salt or sugar before age 1, their mental development will not be hampered with those few minutes of screen-time, speech-problems are unlikely just because your 3 years old is still on a bottle, you certainly don’t have to read daily to your babies to turn them into readers, not everything that touches your baby has to be organic and so on.

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The best we can do is not judge any mom or anyone else for that matter. Don’t be nasty just because she posts beautiful pictures shot by a pro. Don’t bring her down because she posts pixelated images. A super-fit mom has worked hard on her body while a not so shapely mom doesn’t has this in her list of priorities. Just do your thing and let others do theirs.

The list of dos and don’ts for moms is so long that I am sure that even the creator of the list won’t be able to find the head and tail of it. So just chill while you can as your little one is about to wake up from their nap!

What do you think of the Yummy Mummy phenomenon?