Body Image Issues

I’m OK with Not Being Perfect

Every person is different and that’s what makes them unique and actually perfect in themselves.

The concept of perfection has become so flawed and yet so rampant that many of us have started comparing ourselves to everyone on social media. There are many aspects of comparison but comparing the shape and size of bodies is the most common. Daily we look enviously at models, skinny moms, actresses and even at our neighborhood lady. While comparing, we forget that everybody not only has different body types but also completely different lifestyles and priorities. This is where Body Positivity comes in.

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It’s human nature to compare and proliferation of social media has made it very easy. Isn’t it funny how many of us end up losing our mental peace for something that is not even worth it most of the times? There’s no smartness in valuing your body over your being.

I was never skinny but never fat either. By the time I entered late thirties, I started seeing changes in my body. I gained weight easily and didn’t seem to lose it easily. Then I got pregnant and put on another 10 kilograms. I lost it all within two months of delivery but didn’t lose many inches and soon after, I started gaining weight again.
I started walking and some exercise but couldn’t get regular thanks to mommy duties. We live in a nuclear setup and don’t have full time maids which meant that I couldn’t find time for my own health. Rather than going crazy, I decided to look at Body Positivity. A good thing I have started during this time is intermittent fasting which helps even though I end up eating sweets quite often. The guilt creeps up but still self-control isn’t my forte. Who can I blame then?

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Rather than wanting a toned body without doing much about it, I have started to take things as they come. I feel good now that I have decided to take things as they come, I’ve become more confident.

You might say that you are doing everything and still very far from your ideal weight; it can just be your body type or maybe you need a little more time. The plan should be to never give up on yourself. Fat or thin, you need to love yourself. It’s not that I don’t want to lose 10 kgs but I have accepted that it will take some time. Till then, I try to pose in flattering angles and embrace Body Positivity 😛
I’m okay with not being perfect
‘Cause that’s perfect to me
‘Cause that’s perfect to me
‘Cause that’s perfect to me

Do you also feel that awareness about Body Positivity is important?

I thank Priyanka Sehgal who blogs at https://mommynshanaya.wordpress.com for introducing me. She is a dear friend who writes about things close to her heart on her blog. I would also take the opportunity to introduce Sthuti Panigrahy Singh who blogs at https://mommyaccountsays.wordpress.com.

It brings me immense pleasure to share that I, along with 30 other bloggers, am celebrating Women’s Day with a twist. This post is a part of #UnapologeticGirlz Blogathon hosted by @mylittlemuffin_mom @mommyvoyage and @themomsagas, sponsored by @kaurageousyou.

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How I Discovered Self Love by Shaking Things Off

Shake it off, shake it off…

Self Love is our first and last love & this song ‘Shake It Off’ by my favourite Taylor Swift speaks my mind.

I never fitted in the standards that our society has set for being ‘beautiful’. Being dusky with average features and glasses is hardly what one will call a pretty girl. My friend was fair and was pleasant to look at. Even though we were always together, I could never shake off the feeling that she is getting compliments, getting noticed while I was just ‘her friend’.

Not just looks, I never felt confident about any of my capabilities. I was always shy about saying what I wanted. My parents didn’t pay attention to this thing and never really encouraged me to speak up. In my home, we did what our father said and that was it. I was so timid that I kept doing things, I didn’t actually want. I got my real voice only after marriage but wasn’t able to shake off the feeling of not being able to realize my potential in the direction I wanted.

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And then came motherhood with a whole new set of expectations and dos and don’ts. They said that babywearing is bad for baby’s bones. They said that you should have continued breastfeeding your baby till she was 3. They said that you should have lost all the pregnancy weight in a year. Initially, I went crazy thinking about everything that I had to do and the person I had to become. I couldn’t shake off the feeling of not being the ‘perfect mom’ we see on Internet and everywhere in media.

Still, somewhere I knew that I will get around to doing this mom-thing in a way that suited me and my family. I knew because I had already dealt with a society biased towards ‘beauty’ and that wanted me to do what I was ‘supposed to do’. This slowly yet constantly increasing confidence didn’t come overnight. It came when I started feeling comfortable in my own skin. It came when I made peace with my appearance. It came when I left my ‘secure’ job and explored opportunities that interested me. It came when I saw my daughter growing well and turning into a clingy toddler. Yes, even a nerve-wracking toddler is a sign that you are a great mother because the baby trusts you completely. This all contributed to my realization of Self Love.

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I am dancing on my own and many times with my daughter in my arms (clinginess!) but the music in my mind says that it’s going to be alright. And I trust that music now because right now I am the most self-assured, I have ever been. This is Self Love and I am proud to be moving in the right direction. I am never going to be perfect but I am just right so Baby, I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake…

I shake it off, I shake it off.

Do you practice Self Love?

I thank Priyanka Sehgal who blogs at https://mommynshanaya.wordpress.com for introducing me. She is a dear friend who writes about things close to her heart on her blog. I would also take the opportunity to introduce Sthuti Panigrahy Singh who blogs at https://mommyaccountsays.wordpress.com.

It brings me immense pleasure to share that I, along with 30 other bloggers, am celebrating Women’s Day with a twist. This post is a part of #UnapologeticGirlz Blogathon hosted by @mylittlemuffin_mom @mommyvoyage and @themomsagas, sponsored by @kaurageousyou.

Unscented, Thick and Biodegradable- Mother Sparsh Baby Water Wipes Are the Best

The first thing that got me interested in Mother Sparsh Baby Wipes was the ‘99% Pure Water’ claim. I mean what can be gentler!]

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I have been using baby wipes since Idhaya was born and have tried many brands. Some worked fine while others failed. A few days back, I received Mother Sparsh Baby Wipes and have been amazed by the quality. Read on to find out more.

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Brand Claims-

  1. Unscented/Fragrance free baby water wipes
  2. Medical-Grade Fabric – This cottony cloth/fabric makes these baby wipes gentle to the most sensitive parts of the baby.
  3. Extra thick fabric (3 times thicker than ordinary baby wipes) – plant made / derived from plant pulp
  4. Sensitive skin/extra gentle baby wipes
  5. Suitable for hand and mouth cleaning
  6. Moisture lock lid
  7. 99% water wipes
  8. Mother Sparsh water wipes do your bit for the environment – natural and 100% Biodegradable Wipes

Ingredients

Purified water, Polyaminopropyl Biguanide, Sodium Benzoate, Xylitylglucoside Anhydroxylitol Xylitol ( Glucose Vegetable Origin Wheat), Calendula Extract, Citric Acid

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Price- INR 299/- for a pack of 72 wipes

Packaging

Mother Sparsh Wipes come in a regular packet with a Moisture Lock Lid rather than just a sticker closure. The lid keeps wipes wet for a long time.

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My Opinion about Mother Sparsh Baby Wipes

The wipes are really very wet and the fabric is 3 times thicker than ordinary wipes. Both these qualities mean that they do their job of cleaning perfectly. Being so thick, the wipes are really soft and don’t rub harshly against soft baby-skin. The cloth used to make the wipes is medical grade which is a big plus. Idhaya didn’t get any kind of rashes with these wipes.

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The best part is that the wipes are 100% biodegradable which makes them environment friendly. The combination of plant derived fabric and pure water makes these wipes very gentle. Another good thing about Mother Sparsh Baby Wipes is that there is no scent at all. These Unscented Wipes are so soothing and you immediately feel that there is no way that such a thing can harm your little one.

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These wipes are free from Parabens, alcohol, phthalates, sulfates, petrochemicals, chlorine, dyes and triclosan too. Such high standards mean that these wipes are safe to be used on face and hands too.

One more point that I would like to mention is that these are the biggest baby wipes I have used.

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Everything about Mother Sparsh Wipes has been designed thinking about what we mothers want for our kids. I feel that Mother Sparsh Wipes are gold standard of wipes. No fear of skin allergies and rashes, very wet, free from harmful chemicals, big and super thick, environment friendly and unscented. What’s not to love?

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It’s unbelievable that such good wipes are available at a really affordable price. There’s no way that you would want to use any other baby wipes once you try Mother Sparsh Baby Wipes.

These wipes are available on Amazon, First Cry and Flipkart.

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What I Like About Mother Sparsh Baby Wipes

99% Pure Water

Very wet

Super thick and big

Very soft

Do not cause rashes and allergies

Made Using medical grade cloth

Safe for face, hands and obviously baby’s bottom

Unscented

Free from parabens, alcohol and other harmful chemicals

Made with plant derived fabric

100% Biodegradable

Flip top lid which makes wipes stay wet for a long time

Pocket friendly

What I Don’t Like About Mother Sparsh Baby Wipes

Honestly, there is nothing to dislike. These wipes are perfect.

My Rating- 5/5

Do I recommend? – Obviously yes! Not because, I got a pack for free but only because Mother Sparsh Baby Wipes are really very good.

Have you used Mother Sparsh Wipes? What do you think about them?

Rent toys and books in India

The Best Toys and Books Renting Subscription in India, Rentoys Review

I decided to write regularly but again got stuck. Now, I am breaking my hiatus from blogging with something I and especially Idhaya enjoyed a lot. It’s a toys and books renting service that delivers all over India- Rentoys.

As much as I like to buy new toys and books for Idhaya, I can’t always do it. The main reasons are the cost and the clutter at home. Add to this the fact that like every kid, Idhaya gets bored of things very fast so many times an expensive toy seems like a waste of money.

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Rentoys has solved all these problems. They have toys and books for every age group of kids from zero to twelve years olds. As of now, they have the following subscription plans-

Toy Box- The rent for ‘Big Box’ starts from INR 1499/- and for ‘Small Box’, it starts from INR 849/-. The big box carries 4-5 toys of your choice worth INR 10,000 and the small one has 1-3 toys worth INR 5,000.

Book Box- It costs INR 749 per month and carries 5 books of your choice.

You can get the boxes at discount if you subscribe for three months plan. Another way to get 15% discount is to use my code- TRMM on Rentoys Website

All you have to do is subscribe, pick age appropriate stuff and add it to your wish list. Once you subscribe, they pick available toys from your wish-list, add it to your box and send you an email for confirming the same. If you want a change, they make it and ship the box to you.

There is no security deposit if you are paying through credit card and very nominal deposit if you choose any other payment method.

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My Experience with Rentoys-

The ordering process is simple and easy. They even connect you with a Customer Relationship Manager who keeps you updated via WhatsApp. My box was delivered promptly and the toys were shrink-wrapped and packed in a sturdy plastic box.

I got 3 toys and all of them were clean and in very good condition. The toys I ordered were- Hape Walk-A-Long Snail, Fisher Price Feelings Monster, Hape Double Bubble.

The company suggests giving 1 toy per week to the baby but I gave 3 in 3 days itself as Idhaya gets bored easily. The toys I chose are being loved by Idhaya and she plays with them daily. She’s learning to sort the shapes which is making me elated.

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Each toy is cleaned and sanitized before sending to the next customer. If you have more than one kid, you can choose a mix of toys and books for different age groups.

Rentoys Toys and Books Subscription Service has a special section for Montessori toys too so you can pick something specific as well.

If your little one isn’t done with the toys, you can keep them for more than a month by paying the rent for the next one.

To sum it up, I have become a fan of Rentoys and will keep ordering new toys for Idhaya. If you also want to save time and space, head to Rentoys now. Don’t forget to use my discount code TRMM while checking out to get 15% off on any box.

Click on the image and subscribe now-

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Have you tried a toy renting service? How was your experience?

its ok to not be a yummy mummy

It’s OK to Not Be a Yummy Mummy

There are so many ways to categorize moms but the most coveted tag is that of a Yummy Mummy. It simply means a mother who is attractive and stylish. The tag looks harmless and it indeed is until and unless there is a pressure on mommies to look a certain way. As if the unrealistic images of models were not enough, now we are bombarded with images of mothers who are not only thin and glamorous but also have their lives in control.

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These days every other mom wants to look like Kareena Kapoor or her favourite mommy blogger. What these moms forget is that there is no need to fit in every mould there is. Each one of us is unique, beautiful and totally awesome. You can be plus size or a size zero, you may afford expensive photo shoots or you may not, you may always be well turned out or you may not; none of this adds anything or takes away from your motherhood.

About ‘lives in control’ part- some people do it better than others but again this doesn’t make others worse off. If you have a baby who is a total angel, that’s great and others whose babies are like mine, lower your expectations. No havoc will be wreaked if your little one tastes salt or sugar before age 1, their mental development will not be hampered with those few minutes of screen-time, speech-problems are unlikely just because your 3 years old is still on a bottle, you certainly don’t have to read daily to your babies to turn them into readers, not everything that touches your baby has to be organic and so on.

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The best we can do is not judge any mom or anyone else for that matter. Don’t be nasty just because she posts beautiful pictures shot by a pro. Don’t bring her down because she posts pixelated images. A super-fit mom has worked hard on her body while a not so shapely mom doesn’t has this in her list of priorities. Just do your thing and let others do theirs.

The list of dos and don’ts for moms is so long that I am sure that even the creator of the list won’t be able to find the head and tail of it. So just chill while you can as your little one is about to wake up from their nap!

What do you think of the Yummy Mummy phenomenon?

I Love My Husband More than My Daughter

So finally, I get to say it! For starters, I don’t have to worry about him falling from the bed (or maybe I have to :P). On our wedding anniversaries, I write letters to my husband which are basically all the good things that he has done in that year. When I was pregnant, I wrote that he will always be my first priority. Easier said than done as babies are not only attention seekers, they actually need it.

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Obviously, I have to keep Idhaya’s needs on top these days and Mr. TRM18 has been sidelined. We both barely get to speak to each other a sentence which is not about her- her food, savings for her, shopping for her, diaper changes, potty training, bedtime and everything in between. It so happens that I find many opportunities to want to punch him or at least scream (I choose screaming). Yet, I Love My Husband More than My Daughter.

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When I come out of all the chaos, the first thought is always his. I think about all the mean things I said to him in the last 24 hours and he took it silently (or with some opposition). I think about the time when it was just the two of us and I used to be this clueless kid, to him I still am his big baby, who had no idea how to behave in groups or how to speak to new people and even how to talk to elders. He has shaped me into a socially acceptable human being.

Not that it’s ambiguous, my husband is the reason I even thought of having a baby, leave alone conceiving her. Without him, I wouldn’t be sitting at my dining table typing this post 😀 And that’s why I Love My Husband More than My Daughter.

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The question of who you love more is always tricky and picking either your spouse or children seems impossible. To some, it may even seem silly but my choice is clear even though he leads by just 1 point.

Can you pick a favourite between your better half and your kids? I Love My Husband More than My Daughter. Are you also partial to your spouse?

9 Learnings of A One Year Old Mom

Seriously, I am not into learning things I don’t want to but somehow mommyhood has managed to teach me few needed and many not needed lessons. Some are of the life-skill variety and others are just there because I had no idea what motherhood comprises of. I have learnt funny and the not so funny realities but mind you I haven’t mastered any of these. So let’s see exactly What Motherhood Has Taught Me-

1.Patience

A mother is supposed to be really patient but I’m sure that most of us are not built that way. We are not born with patience (have you ever seen a really accommodating baby?) and it comes only with experience. I am lucky to have an embodiment of tolerance in my husband and he’s the one who pointed out that being impatient is one of my shortcomings.

Then came Idhaya who drives me crazy with her antics and there is little I can do about it. The only option I have is to learn the art of patience. I yell at her but not as much as I would have yelled at another baby doing the same things so it’s progress.

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2.Mess and  happiness can live together

This coming from an organization freak is a scandalous statement! I don’t have ‘before’ pictures with me or I would’ve shared a ‘before and after’ scenario of my home. My home now basically looks like a garbage dump but you know what, I have to turn a blind eye towards it. What Motherhood Has Taught Me is to look beyond such things. The reason being I don’t get much time to myself and whatever precious ‘me time’ I get is for doing things that are just for myself like Instagram, online shopping or reading. And so we live happily in a messy house.

3.Love

Not that I don’t love my husband and honestly I still love him a little more than Idhaya (sorry baby!). The difference is that in motherly love, I only give without getting any favours. Loving unconditionally is What Motherhood Has Taught Me. Please don’t tell me that her smile and happiness is what I get because for me it’s a by-product of what I do for her.

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4.Unselfishness

Ha! So this is another life-skill that I am trying to imbibe. My current level of unselfishness is putting Idhaya’s needs before mine and giving her my rabbit soft toy that I have kept very carefully since last 5 years.

5.Confidence

Want to asses my progress? Asses my confidence because it’s the most important of the things What Motherhood Has Taught Me. I have risen above people-pleasing and judgments after becoming a mom. I would add that my frequency of judging others has also come down drastically.

6.Letting Go

Letting go of things that won’t matter in a few years from now What Motherhood Has Taught Me. It makes your mind free and I have felt it lately. Initially when Idhaya won’t sleep and I rocked her, I used to think that she will get habitual of this but I carried on thinking that it will continue for a maximum of three years or so. Guess what? She doesn’t need to be rocked to fall asleep anymore. When she’s sleepy, I simply lay her next to me and enjoy her happy smile before she falls asleep on her own.

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7.There is no best way to mother

Oh yes and many moms will agree with me (though my mom never will) on this. Your mothering style is unique and what works for you is the best (don’t be abusive though!).

8.I am amazing

I still can’t believe that I have not only become pregnant, given birth but have even managed to raise a baby on my own. With a lot of help from the Internet of-course but I am so proud of myself.

9.Sleep is not mandatory

Idhaya used to wake up every 2-3 hours till 3-4 months of age but luckily she almost always went back to sleep after feeding. Now she wakes up just once at night that too because of hunger. There are off days but mostly it’s great. Now, for a sleepyhead like me, waking up at odd hours wasn’t easy but now I’m habitual of it. I have realized that I can do with interrupted sleep.

This is What Motherhood Has Taught Me. What are your Learnings From Motherhood?