There are so many ways to categorize moms but the most coveted tag is that of a Yummy Mummy. It simply means a mother who is attractive and stylish. The tag looks harmless and it indeed is until and unless there is a pressure on mommies to look a certain way. As if the unrealistic images of models were not enough, now we are bombarded with images of mothers who are not only thin and glamorous but also have their lives in control.
These days every other mom wants to look like Kareena Kapoor or her favourite mommy blogger. What these moms forget is that there is no need to fit in every mould there is. Each one of us is unique, beautiful and totally awesome. You can be plus size or a size zero, you may afford expensive photo shoots or you may not, you may always be well turned out or you may not; none of this adds anything or takes away from your motherhood.
About ‘lives in control’ part- some people do it better than others but again this doesn’t make others worse off. If you have a baby who is a total angel, that’s great and others whose babies are like mine, lower your expectations. No havoc will be wreaked if your little one tastes salt or sugar before age 1, their mental development will not be hampered with those few minutes of screen-time, speech-problems are unlikely just because your 3 years old is still on a bottle, you certainly don’t have to read daily to your babies to turn them into readers, not everything that touches your baby has to be organic and so on.
The best we can do is not judge any mom or anyone else for that matter. Don’t be nasty just because she posts beautiful pictures shot by a pro. Don’t bring her down because she posts pixelated images. A super-fit mom has worked hard on her body while a not so shapely mom doesn’t has this in her list of priorities. Just do your thing and let others do theirs.
The list of dos and don’ts for moms is so long that I am sure that even the creator of the list won’t be able to find the head and tail of it. So just chill while you can as your little one is about to wake up from their nap!
What do you think of the Yummy Mummy phenomenon?
The Reluctant Mom